Our Souls do not seek to manage the height of our joy, the depth of our pain, or the flat nature of our boredom. Instead,our Souls grow through our life experiences. The wider and richer our life, the more our Souls are enriched. This actually makes a beautiful kind of sense and may be helpful to caregivers caught in wondering about God's "willingness" to allow suffering in the world. For the personality, hard times, failure, hopelessness may feel like a disaster, for the Soul it may be grist for its strangely joyful mill.